Life Changing Daily Active Questions
One sure way of getting better results in work and life is by changing our thoughts, actions and habits for the better. But that's easier said than done. Many people just focus on making excuses, blaming and expecting others to change and this turns out to be futile.
In the past we did try to make our spouses, family members, bosses and friends change in the way that we wanted and we did not succeed, but when we decided to improve ourselves continuously, we won big time. The person that you really have control over is indeed yourself.
Remember the wise words of Mahatma Gandhi? He said "Be the change that you want to see in the world." Listen to Michael Jackson singing the Man in the Mirror and you will find this valuable point "If you want to make the world a better place, take look at yourself and then make the change" Go ahead, take a look in the mirror or your selfie device and say out loud, "positive change starts with you."
So, how can you succeed in making the change?
The secret lies in what you do daily. Now, allow to us share with you the daily questions process and tool that will help you make big wins by accumulating small wins.
In our work as executive coach, we teach people about the importance of self-reflection as a daily practice to becoming more successful. This daily practice that we teach comes in the form of the active questions. We do this process ourselves and it has made a world of difference for us.
We've discovered that asking ourselves active questions rather than passive questions, changes the focus of our answers and empowers us to make changes that we wouldn't otherwise consider.
Let's take me for example (Marshall). If I ask myself, "Do I have good relationships at work?" I am asking myself passive questions. These passive questions describe a static condition. They cause me to think of what is being done to me rather than what I am doing for myself.
My question, "Do I have good relationships at work?" If the answer is yes, I think about how I like to work with someone. If the answer is no, I think about what I don’t like about another person. Either answer is an "environmental" answer. The reasons attributed to either answer are external factors. Answering such passive questions, seldom cause me to look within to take responsibility.
Now, let's change this question to an active question, such as "Did I do my best to build positive relationships at work?" This question challenges me to reflect on my actions. It puts the responsibility for my relationships at work squarely on me. If positive relationships at work are important to me and I askmyself this question every day, I will start doing my best to build positive relationships! (In other words, I will get better!)
Why does this process work so well?
The good thing about beginning these questions with "Did I do my best to..." is that it is almost impossible to blame someone else for my failure. No one can be responsible for "Did I do my best to..." but me! It forces us to confront how we actually live our values every day. We either believe that something matters or we don't. If we believe it, we can put it on the list and do it!
Test it out. Write the questions that you should ask yourself every day. Even the process of writing questions will help you better understand your own values and how you live or don’t live them on a daily basis. If you really have courage, have someone listen to your answers every day. You might be as amazed at the results as we have been!
The summary of steps to make it easier for you to get results in journey is as follows:
- View the video and think about what is the most important to you.
- Answer the transformational coaching questions after the video. This will aid you in creating daily actions for a positive transformation. For better results, we suggest you partner with another person who is also dedicated to improving their lives.
- Download the tool and fill in the forms base on your priorities. Please refer to the example we provide.
- Use the tool to monitor your progress from 3 to 9 weeks and see your life changing for the better.
- Review your progress with your coach or accountability partner on a weekly basis for 15 minutes per sessions to ensure you are on track in transforming your life.